Hello there! And Merry Christmas from all at Fit for Any Age!
I hope you have a lovely Christmas break with friends and or family.
If you are working in the health sector or with the brave men and women of the police, ambulance and fire services, my utmost respect to you, and I hope that you will find some time this holiday season to have a Christmas break.
Moving along now, and I think I would like to start with an apology.
Last week the website experienced a technical issue, resulting in the format being dramatically changed and affecting the blog scheduled for that week. I toyed with the format and the theme. It may look a bit different this week but I hope it will remain ok. Please let me know your ideas and thoughts on the new blog site image. It would be good to know your views and ideas.
Two things which I learnt from last week though:
-Always back up your work.
-Do your work on a scrapbook / Word outside of the blog, just in case the site has issues again.
For all you budding bloggers out there, remember to back up your work routinely and to do your work outside of the blog site, so just in case there are problems with the site, your blog is not lost.
I learnt the hard way so hopefully it will save you from making the same mistakes.
Last week I looked at exploring enjoying the little moments over the holiday season, and I would like to incorporate those ideas into this blog, so not as to loose what had been initially drafted but ultimately lost.
Christmas can be a stressful time, that sometimes we become so overwhelmed by what is happening around us without being able to stop and pause and savour the little moments.
Christmas can be a time where people are expected to come together to be happy and to be picture perfect – and you know what, if you don’t feel picture perfect over Christmas that’s ok too. We are all human.
If you are going through a mental health crisis or if you are going through a life challenged, you cannot be expected to be perfect on the outside. People put a lot of pressure on themselves to show the best most happy version of themselves at Christmas, and that sometimes causes more stress and anxiety to develop.
If you need a few minutes to get some fresh air to clear your head then do that. If you find that being with certain friends and family actually heightens your stress and anxiety, don’t feel bad to wanting to limit the time that you spend with them.
I know it may sound selfish and a bit bad, as we feel we have to be everywhere with everyone, but if being everywhere with everyone (with some people who you may only see once a year) brings increased stress and anxiety, then rather opt to spend the time with a small bunch of people who understand your mental situation and who are willing to give you the room to breath and be yourself.
It is of course also a season where we tend to overindulge by eating too much and drinking too much, and that can also make us feel pretty rotten, so maybe ease up on the excess if you can.
If you do however go into excess, don’t be too hard on yourself. Just know that when you eat better and control your drink intake that naturally you will feel better.
As for savouring the little moments, sometimes we get so overwhelmed by the presents and the commercialism of Christmas that we sometimes forget that it is not really a commercial holiday – it is a holiday of goodwill.
Savour time spent with friends and loved ones. Show love and gratitude for the roof over your head and the food on your table. Be thankful that you live in a place of safety and security. You are blessed with many gifts. Sometimes you just need to peer over the chaos to see.
And if you are alone and struggling this Christmas please pick up the phone.
The Samaritans is a good place to start. https://www.samaritans.org/. Also, call 116 123 for free.
There are other help services out there too. Please speak to your GP for any other sites and or recommendations. But once again, to everyone this Christmas, Fit For Any Age wishes you a lovely Christmas. Enjoy the moments. Enjoy the food. Give the gifting of being present.
In summary, don’t get bogged down by the commercialism of Christmas and the pressure to buy toys and gifts. Savour the special moments and the goodwill of the season. And if you are struggling and feeling alone this Christmas, know that there is the support available for you.
I hope you have found the blog of some help. Remember: it’s a journey. It will take time. Have patience in the process. You will get there. Until then, stay happy, stay healthy, and have a lovely weekend wherever you are on the planet this Christmas.
And remember: love yourself.
A bit about the author:
I am a guy who is (nearly) 40, who is sharing a journey of weight management and wellbeing.I am also a mental health professional with a wealth of years of experience in supporting individuals who have challenging mental illnesses and personality disorders.
Prior to my current professional role, I spent several years supporting members of the community as a fitness professional, assisting individuals with weight loss and health improvement programmes.
I completed a PGDip in Mental Health Nursing in 2013, and an MSc in Advanced Practice in 2016 in which I looked at improving nurses’ level of engagement with patients with challenging personality disorders.
In 2018 I successfully undertook a Clinical reasoning in Physical Assessments course with the view to start studying toward becoming an Advanced Nurse Practitioner in late 2019.
In 2015 I also undertook a Mentorship for practice (BSc Hons) course and have been supporting future nurses with their training and development. I have also recently supported a Healthcare Assistant Staff toward training in and successfully passing and achieving a Foundation Degree in Mental Health Nursing.
In my current role I am a person looking to support the physical and mental health and wellbeing of the individual. As part of my role within the health services in supporting individuals with mental health care needs, I am also currently looking to develop myself as a Wellness Coach, to support the individual with weekly wellness blogs, with the view to support individuals on a 1:1 basis as well as holding motivational lectures and seminars.